How to Prepare for an IEP Meeting

IEP meetings can feel overwhelming, but preparation makes a huge difference. Parents who prepare ahead of time report feeling more confident and are more likely to leave the meeting feeling heard. Here's how to get ready.

1. Review the proposed IEP draft

If the school sends a draft IEP before the meeting, read it carefully. Make notes on goals you agree with, goals you think could be better, and accommodations that are missing. If the school doesn't send a draft, you can request one.

2. Write down your concerns and priorities

Before the meeting, write a list of your top concerns. What is your child struggling with most? What would make the biggest difference for them? Prioritize your top three requests — you don't need to address everything at once. Focus on what matters most right now.

3. Bring supporting documents

Bring private evaluations, doctor's notes, therapy reports, or work samples that show what your child can and cannot do. A list of accommodations that have worked at home or in other settings is also helpful.

4. Bring someone for support

You don't have to go alone. Bring a spouse, family member, friend, or advocate. They can take notes, help you remember what you wanted to say, and provide emotional support. If you bring an advocate or attorney, let the school know in advance.

5. Prepare your questions

Go into the meeting with a list of questions. Good questions include:

• ?How will progress be measured, and how often will I receive updates?
• ?What training does the staff providing instruction have?
• ?How will accommodations work in the general education classroom?
• ?What happens if my child is not making progress toward a goal?
• ?Can we add a goal for executive functioning or self-advocacy?

6. Know your rights

You have the right to record the meeting (check your state's laws), bring someone for support, receive written notice before any changes, and take the proposed IEP home to review before signing. You do not have to sign anything at the meeting. Take your time.

7. Follow up after the meeting

After the meeting, send a brief email summarizing what was agreed upon. This creates a written record and ensures everyone is on the same page. If something was missed, you can request another meeting or ask for an amendment to the IEP.